There is a tingly, butterfly producing feeling that makes you commit to someone for the rest of your life! There is so much excitement when two individuals decide to get married. Isn’t it amazing what the power of love can make us do? Then, we get past the honeymoon stage, and some things we used to love become triggers. What can we do when it feels hard to love our husband?
Is love really blind?
I watched an experiment called Love is Blind on Netflix, where single men and women are dating in pods, they can hear the other person but not see them. These individuals are making their emotional connections and proposing BEFORE they can see their fiancés for the first time. The ending was a mix of expected and unexpected events. I will not spoil the end for those who have not watched it.
The proposal feels so magical— perhaps you watched Love is Blind on Netflix or you’re engaged and know EXACTLY what I mean.
When you are dating someone, the love connection is so strong that it doesn’t allow you to see the flaws of the other person. That is where the term “love is blind” originated.
Commitment
What a scary word. For some people, commitment sends them running in the opposite direction. For others, they embrace the challenge— taking it day by day.
I want to remind you, friend, that marriage is a covenant with God. Yes, we decided to marry the love of our life, but that’s not all. We made a covenant or agreement with God, too, and he promises to help us every step of the way.
Love is a choice ♥
Marriage is more than a feeling. Feelings are uncertain; they will come and go. We cannot deny that every person has flaws because we are imperfect human beings. So, what can we do when it feels hard to love our husband? We should choose to love them regardless of our feelings.
The appropriate response in marriage is making a daily choice to see the good in your husband because those bubbly feelings will not always be there. You will soon begin to fight over petty things. I will be sincere some days I feel like my husband doesn’t understand me and that is okay. I choose to love him with flaws and all.
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On rough days when it feels hard to love. What can you do?
- Remember the qualities that made your husband attractive in the beginning.
- Thank God for your husband daily!
- Pray for your husband, especially on days you least want to.
- Decide to let go of the past, including hurt and resentment.
- Choose your battles; there is no reason to fight over who left the toilet seat up again!
“It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and nagging woman.”
Proverbs 21:19
What a powerful bible verse! I learned to let go of petty fights since I stumbled upon that verse. It is our responsibility to endeavor the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace, not bickering and fighting against flesh and blood. I realize I shouldn’t be a nagging wife because marriage is not about who is right or who wins the fight.
Unity with God + peace with hubby = Our Calling as Wives
What do you think? Is love a feeling or a choice?
♥ Blessings!
