I am going to get down-and-dirty on this blog post. I have decided to talk about sexual behavior. Yes! About pornography in an increasingly pornified culture.
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Behind today’s pornography lies an extensive network of people who profit from it so much that it has grown into an open and aggressive multi-billion business. Will it ever go away? I highly doubt it.
BUT, it is equally important to bring some things out into the light.
There is no denying that porn is so common that society has normalized graphic sexual content, making these addictions harder to identify and accept.
In all the cases I’ve heard, there is a theme when it comes to pornography. People always mention how one thing leads to another. Like one casual look at nude images escalates into porn videos and masturbation, which becomes a habit—each time wanting more and more.
Pornography is NEVER a personal problem.
The consequences of pornography damage our lives, relationships, and families. Think of it as a ripple effect covering our society.
I am writing to the women out there that have been negatively impacted by the effects of growing up in a pornified culture. Those who from a tender age were exposed to graphic sexual content like Henslin (2018) said:
Our own society is filled with representations of almost every sort intended to cause sexual excitement—from movies and videos to comic books and novels. We even license stores that specialize in selling objects whose purpose is sexual arousal.
James M. Henslin. Social Problems (p.63). Pearson Education.
Pornography is so deceiving, it infiltrates and influences our thoughts and behavior to the point that we “believe” the lies without ever questioning them.
As a result, we have this distorted view that leads to various problems with:
- Mistrust
- Identity
- Shame
- Self-esteem
- Worth & Value
Some of us women are waiting for a man to fill us up, doing anything for attention, and desperate for love and acceptance.
Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”
John 4:18
I want to share some important truth. YOU are the Daughter of a King! There is no need to go around begging for love because you are already chosen, holy, and dearly loved. (Read that again)
Our worth in this life is NOT the sexual pleasure our bodies give to men.
If God could break off my chains, I know he can do it for you, too. I was exposed to graphic content when I was very young, and pornography shackled me for many years until I became a Christ-follower in 2013.
Since then, God has restored my identity. That is how I know the Holy Spirit makes freedom from addiction possible.
Whatever you’ve been through, don’t let the enemy continue feeding you lies that pornography is not harmful. Please know that we are never alone; God wants to heal our minds and hearts from the effects of pornography. Ask God to reveal to you if you have a distorted view about sexuality and allow him to heal you.
If you or someone you love is struggling with pornography, God’s word has a specific verse that tells us exactly what to do:
God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor– not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 NLT
There are two important things to consider from this verse:
- God’s will for you is to be holy
- Stay away from all sexual sin
So this means that to control our bodies and live in holiness and honor, we must do something– our action is necessary. We must stay away from all sexual sin. For example, erase the content or app that entices you. Put the phone in a different room while you sleep.
Or get a screen accountability app that blocks XXX content like Covenant Eyes. I recommend this, especially if you have children. (use Code “Sunshine” for 1st month free, no strings attached) You will feel better knowing your kids have an additional filter while browsing online. Install it for you and your family. Whatever you have to do to stay away– DO IT!
I love that God and his word are personable, meaning when you read a certain verse, God can use that to show you exactly what sin you are struggling with, and he will also provide a way out.
Pornography can be viewed as either filthy and immoral or as a way to explore and express our sexuality. Whichever way you take this issue, my intention is not to form a battle of who is right, rather to openly discuss the things that matter to us and find healing in the process.
In your eyes, what makes something pornographic? Do you think pornography is a social problem? Why or why not?
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♥ Blessings!
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